From December, 2018

Our Inner Child’s Role In the Now

As an adult I still have certain moments where I throw tantrums over the silliest things. After my mini tantrum I truly have to dig deep and ask myself where all of that emotion came from. Whether we understand it or not, the child in us never goes away. The child in us remains with us until the moment we leave this earth but the thing that changes as the years go by are our bodies and our appearance. At what age did an adult or someone older than you say those deadly words of, “You have to grow up?!”…

The Holiday Season and Families

For the last couple of days I have felt this heaviness weighing down on my heart, I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was that I was feeling. It wasn’t until the day before Christmas Eve when I gathered around my family that I realized what was weighing down on my heart with such heaviness. I had this wound that I hadn’t allowed to fully heal because I had worked so hard to suppress this emotion. I had convinced myself that I had let go of this pain deep within me, but what really happened is that I…

The Value of You

I was browsing through Instagram just a couple of minutes ago and came across a post that said, “My mom always says that when you meet the male version of yourself, is when you will meet the love of your life.” To my surprise a lot of the comments on the post went something like this, “Fuck no! Why would I want that I can barely handle myself.” And, “Ugh, Sounds dreadful. I want someone better.” And “No thanks, I don’t need any other type of me in my life.” And the one that hurt my heart a little was…

Why Being Your Most Authentic Self Is the Road Less Traveled

Authentic- Adjective. Not False or Copied. Genuine; real. A few months ago I embarked on a journey to becoming my most authentic self for several of reasons. Mainly because I was extremely tired of truly being someone that I wasn’t. I had this facade going on and it took me awhile to admit what I was doing and what was going on. I wasn’t putting myself first, my wants, needs and I sure as hell wasn’t taking my feelings into consideration. I was compromising myself to please others and to live by what they deemed to be the right way…

Breaking the Habit: Overcoming Depression

I think that for a long time I felt that I didn’t think life could get better for me. For a long time I felt as if though I was brought into this world to suffer, to go through some of the most horrendous things.  I would look at the world around me and I felt as if though everyone else’s life was perfect. It sure seemed that way. For a long time I longed for closeness within my family, for my parents to get their shit together when it came to their relationship, for my godmother to stop threatening…