By Cyn

My intention for all of you is that you all find what you're looking for. Whether it be through the words that I express on my blog or through the words of others. My intention is that you find that which you are seeking and that you find fulfillment in your everyday lives. May my words and the words of others positively impact your life and give you that sense of hope that you're going to be just fine.

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Thank you all!

The Art of Letting Go

You probably came on here thinking that I would start off by saying that I had it all figured out. That I had the magic recipe to let go. To let go of pain, suffering, fears, self-sabotaging behavior, or whatever other million things people are trying to let go of nowadays. It’s not that I don’t know how to do it, it’s just that one size does not fit all. I won’t ever get tired of saying that. What works for me, may not always work for you. Not just that, the thing that I’ve discovered is that one day,…

Social Media Detox: Why It’s Important

There were times when I found myself scrolling through social media apps for what seemed like a short period of time throughout my day, yet when I would add the time up it was more than just a few minutes of my day. I would spend hours on social media and then I would find myself feeling drained and disappointed with myself repeatedly. Why was I so hooked on looking at the latest posts from my friends and or other irrelevant pages? Mind you, I’m not saying anyone is irrelevant but I am saying that there were pages I followed…

Why Ultimatums Never Work

For the most part we’ve all been there right? We’re in a situation that is considered to be far from ideal and you’re frustrated and suddenly you find yourself having a conversation with someone and saying you either do this or I walk away. Then one of two things happen, the person either tells you I’m sorry but I can’t match what you’re asking of me OR the person adjusts to your request and then suddenly you think you actually got what you wanted. I’m saying you think you got what you asked for because you didn’t really get what…

Fixated on Perfect

There’s a reason or I should say there are reasons as to why we see a lot of people in relationships that they’re not happy with, or we also see the people who are tearing apart a potential relationship because of countless of reasons that aren’t even the real reason for them doing that. Let me tell you some of the most common mistakes we make. 1. Fear – You push great people away because of fear. Fear that you’ll get hurt again, fear that you could lose someone, fear that you might mess something up during the relationship so…

Trust Issues

I have been debating whether to speak up on this or not, I want to keep a lot of my things private but at the same time if my story helps someone out there then I think it was worth baring it all. When I was growing up at about the age of I want to say 7 I was molested by a male friend of the family. I didn’t really know what was going on ,clearly I was only 7. Not what we’re supposed to be experiencing at that age. Then about a year later I was molested again,…

Showing Up In Life

I made a short video on this on my Instagram post today on this topic. I asked a simple question(s), “Do you show up for yourself in every area of your life?” And most importantly do you show up for yourself? Which is more important because how you show up for yourself sets the tone for how you show up for yourself in every area of your life. If you don’t show up for yourself in your life, I truly don’t expect for you to tell me that you actually have a fulfilling life and that every other area of…

Our Education System & Society

For as long as I can remember our Education System have made a lot of us feel as if we were incompetent and not capable of becoming someone important within our society. Ever since we were children we have been set to these standards to which only a selected few meet and exceed. If we do not meet or exceed these standards then we are deemed as not being intelligent individuals fully capable of having great careers and or being able to live a great life. This sadly is the ugly truth. I remember all throughout my academic career I…

The Pursuit of Happiness

This is a post about how you can pretty much have everything and feel nothing all at the same time. We as individuals love to say, “When I have this I’ll be happy.” I’m here to tell you that you can have it all or at least be on the path where you are starting to receive these material things and still not feel happy, whole, complete, you still feel like there is something missing. You are never going to be content with whatever exterior item or desire you are wanting. That’s what I would like to call instant gratification…

Our Inner Child’s Role In the Now

As an adult I still have certain moments where I throw tantrums over the silliest things. After my mini tantrum I truly have to dig deep and ask myself where all of that emotion came from. Whether we understand it or not, the child in us never goes away. The child in us remains with us until the moment we leave this earth but the thing that changes as the years go by are our bodies and our appearance. At what age did an adult or someone older than you say those deadly words of, “You have to grow up?!”…

The Holiday Season and Families

For the last couple of days I have felt this heaviness weighing down on my heart, I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was that I was feeling. It wasn’t until the day before Christmas Eve when I gathered around my family that I realized what was weighing down on my heart with such heaviness. I had this wound that I hadn’t allowed to fully heal because I had worked so hard to suppress this emotion. I had convinced myself that I had let go of this pain deep within me, but what really happened is that I…