By Cyn

I'm always trying to find new ways to better myself and to make a difference in other peoples lives. ALWAYS KEEP TRYING! A wise person once told me giving up wasn't an attractive quality to have, from that day forward I made it a point to always try, because in the end it was better to have tried and failed, than to not have tried at all. The kicker is, we don't ever fail.

Trust Issues

I have been debating whether to speak up on this or not, I want to keep a lot of my things private but at the same time if my story helps someone out there then I think it was worth baring it all. When I was growing up at about the age of I want to say 7 I was molested by a male friend of the family. I didn’t really know what was going on ,clearly I was only 7. Not what we’re supposed to be experiencing at that age. Then about a year later I was molested again,…

Showing Up In Life

I made a short video on this on my Instagram post today on this topic. I asked a simple question(s), “Do you show up for yourself in every area of your life?” And most importantly do you show up for yourself? Which is more important because how you show up for yourself sets the tone for how you show up for yourself in every area of your life. If you don’t show up for yourself in your life, I truly don’t expect for you to tell me that you actually have a fulfilling life and that every other area of…

Our Education System & Society

For as long as I can remember our Education System have made a lot of us feel as if we were incompetent and not capable of becoming someone important within our society. Ever since we were children we have been set to these standards to which only a selected few meet and exceed. If we do not meet or exceed these standards then we are deemed as not being intelligent individuals fully capable of having great careers and or being able to live a great life. This sadly is the ugly truth. I remember all throughout my academic career I…

The Pursuit of Happiness

This is a post about how you can pretty much have everything and feel nothing all at the same time. We as individuals love to say, “When I have this I’ll be happy.” I’m here to tell you that you can have it all or at least be on the path where you are starting to receive these material things and still not feel happy, whole, complete, you still feel like there is something missing. You are never going to be content with whatever exterior item or desire you are wanting. That’s what I would like to call instant gratification…

Our Inner Child’s Role In the Now

As an adult I still have certain moments where I throw tantrums over the silliest things. After my mini tantrum I truly have to dig deep and ask myself where all of that emotion came from. Whether we understand it or not, the child in us never goes away. The child in us remains with us until the moment we leave this earth but the thing that changes as the years go by are our bodies and our appearance. At what age did an adult or someone older than you say those deadly words of, “You have to grow up?!”…

The Holiday Season and Families

For the last couple of days I have felt this heaviness weighing down on my heart, I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was that I was feeling. It wasn’t until the day before Christmas Eve when I gathered around my family that I realized what was weighing down on my heart with such heaviness. I had this wound that I hadn’t allowed to fully heal because I had worked so hard to suppress this emotion. I had convinced myself that I had let go of this pain deep within me, but what really happened is that I…

The Value of You

I was browsing through Instagram just a couple of minutes ago and came across a post that said, “My mom always says that when you meet the male version of yourself, is when you will meet the love of your life.” To my surprise a lot of the comments on the post went something like this, “Fuck no! Why would I want that I can barely handle myself.” And, “Ugh, Sounds dreadful. I want someone better.” And “No thanks, I don’t need any other type of me in my life.” And the one that hurt my heart a little was…

Why Being Your Most Authentic Self Is the Road Less Traveled

Authentic- Adjective. Not False or Copied. Genuine; real. A few months ago I embarked on a journey to becoming my most authentic self for several of reasons. Mainly because I was extremely tired of truly being someone that I wasn’t. I had this facade going on and it took me awhile to admit what I was doing and what was going on. I wasn’t putting myself first, my wants, needs and I sure as hell wasn’t taking my feelings into consideration. I was compromising myself to please others and to live by what they deemed to be the right way…

Breaking the Habit: Overcoming Depression

I think that for a long time I felt that I didn’t think life could get better for me. For a long time I felt as if though I was brought into this world to suffer, to go through some of the most horrendous things.  I would look at the world around me and I felt as if though everyone else’s life was perfect. It sure seemed that way. For a long time I longed for closeness within my family, for my parents to get their shit together when it came to their relationship, for my godmother to stop threatening…

Mirrors: It’s not them, It’s you

Have you ever heard someone say, “it’s not you, it’s me.” We’ve always known that’s the biggest lie ever, right? The truth is it was never them and it was always you. If you never heard that before but always wondered why relationships were going wrong, why bosses were always mistreating you, why family relationships or friendships were sour, it wasn’t them, it was you. I spent years trying to figure out why certain patterns were playing out in my life. I found it odd and even thought I was cursed. Then I started reading a lot, I came across…