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The Art of Letting Go

You probably came on here thinking that I would start off by saying that I had it all figured out. That I had the magic recipe to let go. To let go of pain, suffering, fears, self-sabotaging behavior, or whatever other million things people are trying to let go of nowadays. It’s not that I don’t know how to do it, it’s just that one size does not fit all. I won’t ever get tired of saying that. What works for me, may not always work for you. Not just that, the thing that I’ve discovered is that one day,…

Why Ultimatums Never Work

For the most part we’ve all been there right? We’re in a situation that is considered to be far from ideal and you’re frustrated and suddenly you find yourself having a conversation with someone and saying you either do this or I walk away. Then one of two things happen, the person either tells you I’m sorry but I can’t match what you’re asking of me OR the person adjusts to your request and then suddenly you think you actually got what you wanted. I’m saying you think you got what you asked for because you didn’t really get what…

Fixated on Perfect

There’s a reason or I should say there are reasons as to why we see a lot of people in relationships that they’re not happy with, or we also see the people who are tearing apart a potential relationship because of countless of reasons that aren’t even the real reason for them doing that. Let me tell you some of the most common mistakes we make. 1. Fear – You push great people away because of fear. Fear that you’ll get hurt again, fear that you could lose someone, fear that you might mess something up during the relationship so…

Showing Up In Life

I made a short video on this on my Instagram post today on this topic. I asked a simple question(s), “Do you show up for yourself in every area of your life?” And most importantly do you show up for yourself? Which is more important because how you show up for yourself sets the tone for how you show up for yourself in every area of your life. If you don’t show up for yourself in your life, I truly don’t expect for you to tell me that you actually have a fulfilling life and that every other area of…

Our Education System & Society

For as long as I can remember our Education System have made a lot of us feel as if we were incompetent and not capable of becoming someone important within our society. Ever since we were children we have been set to these standards to which only a selected few meet and exceed. If we do not meet or exceed these standards then we are deemed as not being intelligent individuals fully capable of having great careers and or being able to live a great life. This sadly is the ugly truth. I remember all throughout my academic career I…

The Pursuit of Happiness

This is a post about how you can pretty much have everything and feel nothing all at the same time. We as individuals love to say, “When I have this I’ll be happy.” I’m here to tell you that you can have it all or at least be on the path where you are starting to receive these material things and still not feel happy, whole, complete, you still feel like there is something missing. You are never going to be content with whatever exterior item or desire you are wanting. That’s what I would like to call instant gratification…

Our Inner Child’s Role In the Now

As an adult I still have certain moments where I throw tantrums over the silliest things. After my mini tantrum I truly have to dig deep and ask myself where all of that emotion came from. Whether we understand it or not, the child in us never goes away. The child in us remains with us until the moment we leave this earth but the thing that changes as the years go by are our bodies and our appearance. At what age did an adult or someone older than you say those deadly words of, “You have to grow up?!”…

The Value of You

I was browsing through Instagram just a couple of minutes ago and came across a post that said, “My mom always says that when you meet the male version of yourself, is when you will meet the love of your life.” To my surprise a lot of the comments on the post went something like this, “Fuck no! Why would I want that I can barely handle myself.” And, “Ugh, Sounds dreadful. I want someone better.” And “No thanks, I don’t need any other type of me in my life.” And the one that hurt my heart a little was…